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Two years ago, I dated a guy that I fell head over heels for. The problem was that he didn’t know what he wanted, and he was heavy into drugs. I’m a very serious person by nature, and once I realized that he was flighty – I had to cut him off. But I was heartbroken; he had treated me badly throughout the relationship.
I went to school and met a great guy – smart, ambitious, funny – but I kept comparing him to my ex (because as great as this current guy is, I still love the ex more). I finally managed to put that aside for the boyfriend’s sake, because he is very good to me.
Well, last night I got a phone call, and sure enough it was my ex (we talk pretty often, although I have always made it clear we were just friends). He told me he wanted to get back together and that he still loves me; he said he was working on quitting drugs, and has already stopped the drinking, and is actively going to a therapist. A few other people confirm this story.
He wants me to go on a romantic getaway with him, and to date him again. But I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend because he treats me well, and loves me very much and I can imagine a future with him. At the same time, I can imagine a future with my ex (one involving a lot of love).
Should I go on the trip, or tell him I can’t and cut him off? And who do you think is the best choice – dating someone I love more than anything, or dating someone safe who I have learned to love?
Well, I think that you should think about your current relationship independently of whether or not your ex exists. If you are considering leaving him for someone else, even though he is a sweet guy, I don’t think he is the right guy for you. It’s really not fair to him either.
But about the ex, I think it’s got trouble written all over it. I’m not saying it could never be a good situation, but I don’t think you should go with him while he’s still going through therapy and in the process of quitting drugs. Until he is completely clean and completely stable you are probably better off being a supportive friend. He has enough to think about and work through without adding a relationship to the mix.
Anyways, that’s just my opinion. I hope it helps
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i love my ex and i have told him that before. even when we r still over. and i really want to get back together but he has a girlfriend. and all i can talk about is how much i love him and i still flirt with him.
I have a feeling your gonna break up his relationship with his girlfriend.
I love my boyfriend but i love ex boyfriend so much?
Author: Chris
I love my bf but bit maybe 1%.and i cant forget my ex.i love ex 100% but cant contact with him anymore.he lost love he said me just feeling changed and he changed e-mail address and blocked facebook etc..
what i should do?i should breakup with my boyfriend?
i agree with mia. break up with your boyfriend if you dont love him enough or just 1 percent. and be single for a while to you can get yourself to feel as if you truly are over your exboyfriend and can begin dating someone you really like once again.
I still love my ex… We broke up because her parents doesn’t want her dating any guys. I was planning to put a medium size teddy bear, 12 red roses flowers, and heart shaped Ferraro chocolates in her locker. Is it a good idea??
No way! Youre only wasting your time and money. I learned that the hard way/ Youre only fooling yourself. Sorry to sound harsh, but in the long run its just not a good idea and I wish someone had told me that LoL. It also sounds like she broke up with you for more reaons other than the fact her parents dont want her dating any guys……just a thought.
My mom HATES my ex-boyfriend but i don’t care and when i asked her why she said that she loved me but i told her that i love him more. She asked what i ment wether i loved him more than she loved me or than i loved her and i told her more than her and i know i was wrong to say that but she doesn’t understand how much i love him and it wasn’t as though i was saying that i hate her.
Boy, this is really confusing. And no offense, but what difference does it make? You all need to focus on making yourselves better people and not on hating anybody.