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The Secret To Happiness
Author: Chris
The key to a happy relationship could be accepting that some miserable times are unavoidable.Researchers from California State University, North Ridge and Virginia Tech said that accepting these problems is better than striving for perfection. And they blame cultural fairy tales and modern love stories for perpetuating the myth that enjoying a perfect relationship is possible.”It’s a myth that, with enough effort, we can achieve a state without suffering. Healthcare professionals may not helping the situation. The field of mental health perpetuates this myth with the very concept of mental health, which implies a state without suffering. It was important to explore what people mean by a happy and healthy relationship because nobody’s life or relationship can be in a permanent state of happiness – there will always be more difficult times,” said research team leader Dr (Ms) Diane Gehart, a professor at the university.But this belief can eventually cause people to believe that with enough effort they can eliminate suffering. There is an unrealistic aim in relationships, and striving to achieve it can lead people to feel they have failed. “Couples need to build strengths, such as understanding in their relationships to help them cope in these hard times and appreciate the good times,” Ms Gehart said.
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read comments (15)Flirt With Each Other
Author: Chris
Even if you’ve been together for years, experts say flirting sends natural amphetamines and endorphins surging through the body, stimulating an instant emotional “high” not unlike orgasm. Pretend you’ve just met him (or her) and act as you did at the beginning. Dress sexily, look your partner straight in the eye when he talks to you, and be aware of your body when you move in front of him.
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Come in, and WELCOME to my site.
Author: Chris
Hello dear visitor and welcome to my site. Pleas let me tell you a little about me and who I am. And later, after that, you will see why and how I believe I can be useful for you at this moment ,when you are probably needing some love or relationship help and advice, ok?
Online ads giving lost lovers a second chance
Author: Chris
New York: Ever locked eyes with a stranger on a train or in a store, become quickly intrigued, and later regretted not even saying \”hello.\”
In a fast-paced world growing ever faster online, the Web is replacing the newspaper personal ad as a place where people can act belatedly on that moment of magical chemistry – with some fleeting encounters even leading to marriage.
At social networking and advertising site Craigslist.org, a subsection called Missed Connections, is rapidly becoming a destination for second chance encounters, and its ads tell tales of infatuation, hope, frustration and love.
Craigslist\’s Chief Executive Jim Buckmaster said he had heard of several marriages forged through Missed Connections which was set up in 2000. Use of the site has surged in the past three years to 75,000 new postings a month from 18,000, with San Francisco the biggest market then New York.
\”It is a long shot but hope springs eternal – and people seem to have a weakness for long shots,\” Buckmaster said.
Ads on the site read like this: \”Birmingham girl with Stella Artois at Gristedes!!!! I do not know why I did not invite you to drink beers with me…! hope is not late, I would love to.\”
Or this: \”Confused Brunette On The A Train This Morning: You came into my A train, but quickly turned around and exited. I wish you stayed.\” But in New York – a city crammed with eight million people – what are the chances that the stranger from across the train will log on to the site that day, find the post and respond?
Ask Mark Svartz. While standing in line for two hours to have a book signed by American writer Jonathan Safran Foer, Svartz, 27, chatted with the girl standing in front of him. They did not exchange even their names.
\”The next morning I realized that it probably would have been smart to get a number,\” he said.
Like the 15 million other people in the US and Canada who use Craigslist.org each month, Svartz, an advertising executive from Manhattan, sometimes reads the Missed Connections posts for kicks. Now he had a reason to make the leap from voyeur to participant.
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She will fall for you if other women dote on you
Author: Chris
Beauty may be in the eye of the beholder but other people\’s opinions matter too when it comes to the attraction between men and women, according to researchers. They found women are more attracted to a man if other women like him too.
\”We tend to think about things like attraction as reflecting a private decision or a personal choice but our work shows that people\’s attractiveness judgments can be influenced in pronounced ways by what other people appear to think of those individuals,\” said psychologist Ben Jones.
Jones, of the University of Aberdeen, and his team tested the impact of the opinions of others by giving women a test in which they had to choose the more attractive of pairs of male faces and to rate how much more handsome they found them.
They were then shown a short video in which the same faces were displayed. But each face was being looked at by a woman smiling or one showing a bored or neutral expression.
After watching the video, the researchers repeated the initial test. \”We found that the slideshow caused women to become more attracted to the men who were being smiled at by other women,\” said Jones.
The test had the opposite effect on men however, possibly because of the competition factor amongst males.
When men were asked to look at the same male faces, those who got the approving female glances became less appealing. \”This shows that people are using cues to the attitudes of others towards individuals to shape their own attractiveness judgments of those individuals,\” Jones said.
The findings, which are reported in the Proceedings of The Royal Society B journal, are similar to mate choice copying seen in other species and are thought to be the first time it has been shown in humans.
Positive female interest in the faces increased the women\’s preference for the males but it had the opposite effect on male judgments. Jones suggests the positive reaction conveys a sense of approval for women but the negative male reaction could reflect jealousy or competition.
\”If I go to a bar with Brad Pitt, for example, chances are I\’m not going to get much interest from the women because Pitt will hog all the attention,\” he said.
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For couples staying apart this Valentine\’s Day, it is a tough week indeed! Now, you know why lovers count their happiness in hours, minutes and seconds
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, but bears it out even to the edge of doom. So said the Bard. And it holds true for today\’s couples too. Ask those who will be away from each other on this Valentine\’s Day. With the V-Day falling on a week day this year, many couples who are in a long distance relationship are feeling the heat, a bit too much. With the Gen Y becoming more and more conscious of having a well settled career before say settling down, many young men and women today are going out of the city to study or work, leaving their partners to do their own bit.
For some like Darryl Dimeck who is presently in Boston working with a software company, it was a well thought, conscious decision to move out. \”My girlfriend is in New York pursuing her Management studies. We have been in a relationship for two years now. When an opportunity came for me to work, we gave it a serious thought as to how important are our careers for us and how the distance would affect our relationship. Thankfully, so far we have been doing pretty well.\”
With both the partners busy with their own circle of friends and not having to share everthing with each other does lend a sort of independence. But then you can\’t reach out to your partner anytime you feel like. You have to be mindful of the other\’s time and space. Hance, many feel that the fun and spontaneity of the union does get affected by the distance.
Junita Paul, working with an NGO in Florida, was in New Jersey for two years to work, leaving behind her boyfriend to concentrate on his studies. \”There were problems. For instance, if I was working, I wouldn\’t attend his calls and vice versa. This led to differences. But I guess both of us managed to keep it going. We would plan our trips in such a way as to meet each other whenever possible.\”
The distance also has its ugly head. That of distrust. The loyalty of each partner is questionable. Junita\’s lawyer boyfriend Steve says, \”There were communication gaps, no spontaneity in the relationship and of course we weren\’t meeting regularly. But we had to eliminate the distrust. I believe how much trust you can put into your partner is the key to a successful long distance relationship.\”
The pressures of long distance are very tough to cope up with. So sometimes it ends in heartbreak and sometimes in weddding bells. Says Fred Waters who bumped into his wife on phone, met her after a month, dated for another ten months living in different cities before finally proposing her, \”We knew the relationship could become stale with no fun. But we always tried to keep the relationship alive with humour and surprises. We could crack jokes on phone, share the day\’s happenings, send surprise gifts or cards to each other. It did help.\”
Stephanie, currently in UK with her husband James lived apart for an year post marriage. With her being in Canada and him being in UK it was a \’high maintenenace relationship\’. But the \’extra efforts put in for constant reassurance of one\’s presence in the other\’s life made the going little less tough\’ she says.
But not all is as comfortable as it seems. Apart from understanding and love you\’ve got to be quiet lenient with your purse strings. Explains Martha, working as a consultant in California, \”My relationship is a long distance one. My boyfriend is based in Montana. We have to keep shunting between California and Montana on weekends. And then to keep in constant touch, a lot of money goes into paying heavy telephone bills.\”
Now that surely hurts!
Distance does not spell the end of a relationship
Loving Your Long Distance Relationship by Stephen Blake is a Proven Step-By-Step Guide on how you can manage your Long Distance Relationships effectively.
After reading Loving Your Long Distance Relationship you\’ll be able to avoid potential relationship problems … and realize how easy it is to stay together while you\’re apart from the one you love!
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Can men handle a break-up?
Author: Chris
Nick, a 25-year-old marketing executive broke off with his girlfriend. Since he wanted to handle the break-up on his own, he stopped meeting his friends because he did not want any sympathy from them. But it was only a matter of time that he became frustrated and started losing his cool on practically anything and everything.
Moving on is difficult for many, but since women can talk more openly about their sorrow and find no harm in crying about their pain, they are able to handle this sort of stress better, unlike men.\”
How should you cope with break-up stress:
- Accept that you are not at ease with the break-up
- Identify the core beliefs that are upsetting you and replace them with positive ones and seek help.
- Cry if you feel the need to do so. Don\’t suppress your feelings.
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I need some help, i love this girl and i know she likes me but she still loves her ex. What do I do?
give her time and let her get over him in her own time, don’t rush her and just be a good friend. when she’s over him, make your move