Blog on how to get your ex back, make up after a fight, and avoid break up or divorce.

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Hello dear visitor and welcome to my site. Pleas let me tell you a little about me and who I am. And later, after that, you will see why and how I believe I can be useful for you at this moment ,when you are probably needing some love or relationship help and advice, ok?

My name is Chris, I’m a 44 yo guy born in Buenos Aires, Argentina. At that moment, my father was employed at the Ford Motors Argentina company as a chief in the die-stamping section of the plant, and was well known as one of their best experienced and creative mold makers and designer. That was when he decided to emigrate to the United States (with a Ford Motors recomendation in hand) , to improve his knowledge and possibilities while living in the best country possible. That alone had been a great life experience for him and my mother (I was only one y.o. and my sister just born), since those days globalization didn’t exist and current means of comunication were just someone’s crazy dream in the best case. So on those days just a handful of argentinians have had the privilege of visiting the U.S. and even less, to live in them!

So, what I have to tell about myself, is that I lived in the Los Angeles area all my childhood, and absolutely loved it ! My first language was english and my first school and friends were americans. Some time later I had two american brothers, and when I was 10, we all moved back to argentina due to some health problems of my grandfathers who were becoming old, and stayed there for a living for many years untill my brothers and I were adults. Nowadays, my american brothers and their familys live again in L.A., while I alternate weeks between the U.S. and Argentina since 6 years or so now, due to my import and export day job. So I can say I have the best of both worlds, and good friends and even family in both counties.

Now you may be asking “what does this history have to do with relationship problems and broken hearts? How is this guy suposed to advice me or to help me to deal with my break up?” Or “can he actually do something to help me get my ex back?” and “what if i’m facing an emminent divorce and want to stop it?”.

Ok. I want to be sincere to you my friends. First of, I have no “licence” or official title in the materia. I’m not a conselour or relationship therapist, or a legal consultant for a divorce.

But what I AM, is a normal person just like you, but who, on one hand, when was a kid allways lived surrounded of good friends and in places I loved, and had everything a child could desire, while in the other hand, like many people, internally suffered like only I can tell, the fact that my parents were allways fighting or just on the border of a fight. I remember that any insignificant thing could convert in a good excuse for them to start shouting eachother, while all sorts of threats and insults were the favorite music playing so many times in my house. If you yet don’t do, start believing in flying saucers. I can attest they exist. I saw them dozens of times. And not only flying saucers. Just any object was fine as an improvised missile in any sudden war between them.

Later, when I grew up, I started asking myself how was that possible if our lives seemed to be perfect, at least from my point of view: four healthy kids, my dad with his own small factory at that time, a (happy?) housekeeping mom, and a comfortable lifestyle. Their american dream came true in a matter of a few years! So what went wrong in their relationship? They never told it to me, and I never asked.

But, when I became a teenager, I sweared to myself that I won’t repeat that history in any relationship or marriage I had in the future, and when children arrive, I will ever make them go throuh what I went through. And, maybe because of those thoughts,(I can’t really tell) I began developing a genuine, not planned interest in human interactions and their keys, but specially in those related to love and relationships. And asking whitch were the “WHY”s and “HOW”s that make them prosper and healthy in some cases and totally frustrating or harmful in others.

So I started reading a lot of books and magazines, grabing information from here and there, talking with older and experienced people, also digging into some psycology, and in general trying to find which ones were those common components to all happy relationships and succesfull marriages. I believed that if I just could extract those precious ingredients and put them into some kind of “magic love recipe” while discarding those toxic ones that make relationships fail, I would have the general guidlines that could allow me to find the right person in first place, and then, to create a fluorish and long term bond with her. This research, and finding those golden gems, represented a challenge to me for years and I was very excited about it. (I love hard challenges )

It was really fun and I loved it, but after those teen years and a couple of failed relationships (LOL) I became a bit more realistic. You know, human relations are not mathematics, and I realized  that my first idea of just applying a writen formula won’t work, and that the subject was a little more complex than what I first innocently thought .

By the way, I ever considered myself the apropiate person someone should come to for advice. I ever thought in my wildest dreams that I could help to save someone’s relationship from break up or help him or her to get their ex love back ,or to make them up after a fight!  You know, each case is different and unique. And, as I told you, I allready had my own failures on my back .So, despite of how much I love the topic and have learned about it, I allways had clear in my mind that the much or little I know will (hopefully…maybe…who knows…) help me at least to avoid making to much mistakes in my sentimental life from now on.

That was untile my good friend Samantha broke up with her boyfriend Greg after two years and a half of dating. Well, really he dumped her. I’m not going to tell the whole story here. All I’ll say is that she was totally desperate, stoped eating for days, stoped going to college, and almost stoped breething I think. He had  recently dated another girl and was crazy for her.
So Samantha went for help to her girl friends first, who made her see that he was the worst person in the world for what he did to her. They convinced her to go out with them, they took her to partys, clubs, and every possible place you can take someone to distract them. Everything was valid when trying to make her forget him and kick the monster out of her mind once for all! After all, she was nice, young, full of qualities, and any new (and surely better) guy would, with no doubt, be more than interested in making her forget her ex “garbage”. Of course, her family advised her on the same way.

Something about four months later from her break up, we found casually in a gas station . We talked briefely there since I had a very bussy day and not too much time to spend, but before I was saying goodbye, I asked her about Greg. That’s when the world seemed to fall over here. It has been some time without seeing her, so I didn’t understand what suddenly happened to her, and even didn’t know she had broke with Greg. All I knew is that she was now crying like a baby on my shoulder, her tears wetting my shirt. All what I could do at that moment was to invite her for a coffe and talk to her to see what’s so wrong and to help her in some manner if possible. That’s what we did. As soon as she started talking (while still crying for moments) I noticed two facts that nobody seemed to be able to see before:

1) The “monster” : She totally loved him, before, now, and probably for ever. No care what he did to her. She’s lost in love.

2) She was claiming for help to anybody who agreed to listen to her. But not help to forget him , or to hate him, or to start going out and having fun with others, which is the kind of help she was actually receiving. She needed someone to advice her and help her to GET BACK WITH HIM, she was needing her ex back no matter what.

She needed somebody who could take her by the hand and guide her from a more painless position than her’s and who can see things from a different point of view. Someone who could clearly see where she failed and tell her exactly which were her errors and how she can avoid repeating them in a second chance, and then finally helping her to plan the strategy to get her ex boyfriend back.

I don’t want to bore you no longer with Samantha’s love story, but I should proudly say that after talking with her some more times as a friend who knew how to listen and understand her heart, and talking with Greg separately and advicing him too, they finally went back together and are nowadays (almost two years later) happier than ever, and they consider me now some kind of “sponsor” of their relationship, who saved them from definite breakup when they had a love in their hearts still tooo big to be lost.

After Samantha, and when everybody in our circle of friends and relatives knew her story, I started to be a reference for help when any kind of love problems can’t be resolved by the partners of a relationship. Surprisingly for my own, I discovered my skills and the pleasure and satisfaction I feel when getting people together after a fight, after a break up or just advicing on regular problems or discussions couples may have. At this moment I have being doing it with a lot of friend, here and in Argentina, and also helped unknown persons who heard about my “heart rescue service” and came to me. It may be because (modestly) I have a pretty good success rate when helping partners to reunite and minimize their differences, or getting them together after a break up (if love is still there)

So I began receiving advice from many people who tried to convinced me to explode my ability and go helping people not only in my diary circle of friends and neigborhood, but to give my opinions and advice to anybody who can need it. So that’s when the idea of a blog in the web came to my mind.

And here we are. If you were reading untill this point, maybe we could become friend and hopefully I may be useful to you if you need me. You will find this blog page with general opinions and discussions, some from the web, some from my own and some from visitors who reply, and I encourage you to visit my Articles section. There are categorized articles wroten by me, in four different categories, so you can go directly to the topic of your interest. And feel free to email me if you like, ask me questions, comment something or just give me your feedback and let me know if you find my site usefull for you. You may also mail me in spanish if you feel more comfortable with it.

Again, thanks for visiting and welcome to my cave in the net.

P.S.: I believe my english is good enough, but not perfect. So I apologize for any mistake or misspelling you may find. (I’m making big efforts to perfection it, so I’m sure you’ll be patient with me  )

Chris Casab

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